Forgiveness

[L. Love]

When we have had people in our lives who have hurt us or done things in the past to cause us to question who we are, its very easy to go down the road of hate and vengeance.  Often times the people who have done the damage have continued on without giving the pain they caused us a second thought and yet we choose to go into victim or 'martyr mode' and carry the pain around with us.

This applies to anything in life.  We have a choice.  To let it all go and move forward or to remain in victim or martyr mode.

Today I visited my ex husband who has failing health to the point that he is not going to recover.  My youngest son is with him and his wife helping out where he can - and I am so proud of him for that.

His wife and I get on very well as she is aware we have a son together and my son gets on well with her.  She is much younger than my ex and yet is dealing with all this so well.

Today I went to see him as frankly, I am not sure how long he will remain here now and I chose to see him and to do what I could while there.

My son remained with us as we spoke and although my ex did some horrific things to me, I felt compassion for his situation.  He could barely speak a few words without having to go back on oxygen again.

I asked if it was ok for me to do reiki on him while I was there which he agreed.  I did a silent cutting of the ties very gently while sending him love and light.  I spoke to him about forgiving himself for things and also others, to let go of the things he is holding in, to allow him some peace.  I told him I forgive him and hope he forgives me.

I am not sharing this to look like a saint or anything, just being real.  

My ex did the worst thing to me any man can do to a woman and yet, here he was, looking very old, incredibly ill and weak.  I could do nothing except feel compassion for him.  My son was delighted to see us able to sit and talk which is good for him to see.  I know both my ex and I are at peace with each other and hugged on leaving.

I choose not to take anger and hatred with me as this will make me feel dis-eased and may manifest into health issues I do not want.  I choose to make my peace and forgive those who hurt me.  I choose to love those who hurt me.

We always have that choice.

[L. Love]

Thank you Theresa for sharing as you have honey.  Yes when forgiving, it is more for ourselves than the other person, for as you say, it lightens our own load.  No one says we have to forget what took place but I truly believe without some of what has happened in my life, I wouldn't be who I am today.  Everything helps us grow and learn and realise just how strong we really are!

Only we can let go the baggage we choose to carry around with us and when we carry a heavy load, it prevents us from enjoying life and living it as it is meant to be.

Love and hugs dearest and you are never alone.

[L. Love]

@ Misty....thank you dearest....much appreciated ((HUGS))

@ Revanna...Meditation is always a good thing too and hope you find that space in your heart where your own inner peace lies dearest.  And thank you for your kindness ((HUGS))

@ Raib...very true dearest but ALWAYS worth the effort, even if only for our own inner peace ((HUGS))

[L. Love]

As an addendum to my blog post.....my ex husband passed away this morning and I am so glad we got to talk and make our peace.  My main concern is now my son and helping him over this as he was there with his step mum when he died.

I may be away for a couple of days but I thank you for reading and for your comments.  Love and blessings to you all.

[L. Love]

@ Fahl Len...thank you :)

@ Ravenna Pumpkin...I am sorry dearest you had to endure things to make you feel as you have.  I guess from my own perspective, I chose not be a victim anymore and so made a conscious decision to let things go. There are many books out there that may be of help....just look in the New age or Psychology section of your local book shop.  I wish you love on your journey.

@ Misty....You will honey, I am sure of it.