Soul Mates and Twin Flames, What Are They Really?

[Grigori Rho Gharveyn]

Many of us have had a distinct experience when meeting someone for the first time, that makes us feel we are inexplicably, perhaps incontrovertibly somehow connected with our new acquaintance deep within our souls.  We may believe this new person is our soul mate or our twin flame.  But what are our soul mates or twin flames really?  Can we truly be linked to another spirit and destined to meet one another in many different incarnations?  Were we somehow made for one another by a divine creator who provides for all of us someone special with whom we may share our lives?

 

 

Soul Mates and Twin Flames, What Are They Really?

 

Like many spiritual beliefs, our concepts of twin flames or soul mates are often predicated upon deep spiritual experiences for which there are too often no adequate words.

We use metaphors to try to describe such experiences until these experiences begin to become so commonplace in our cultures that new words evolve to more accurately describe our experiences.  Sometimes these metaphors may stick like glue and we may come to accept our metaphors as literal descriptions when in fact our metaphors may still fall far very short of being valid descriptions of our experiences.

While it is undeniably true that many of us have experiences in which we recognize another soul with whom we are intimately connected in some inexplicable way, perhaps we should examine the metaphors we use to describe these experiences to shed some light on what may really be going on.

Metaphors are used to apply terms for past experiences which we may feel we understand to new experiences which we have no proper concepts for.  Without clearly understood concepts for our new experiences we may have no words with which to accurately describe our new experiences, so we must resort to using poetic metaphors.

However, metaphors are only an approximate likeness between two experiences using words which will usually accurately describe our familiar experiences but which will, sometimes at best, provide only a reasonably close ‘as-if’ description of our new experiences.

So when we meet someone with whom we feel we share a common past or destiny we search for a way to explain this feeling and our culture has developed the concepts of soul mates and twin flames to accommodate our need for words to describe how we feel.

Our metaphors of our soul mates and twin flames come from our real experiences with having partners in life, our mates, or having known someone with a twin, a biological condition.  Both indicate a degree of relatedness that is above and beyond the way we appear to be related to most other people in our lives and that is the essence of what we are trying to express when we find someone with whom we resonate or communicate with on deepest levels of our souls.

Neither marriage nor twins may have any real meaning in regard to our spirits, so the popular concepts of soul mates and twin flames may be off the mark in the context of the spiritual realities of our souls.  We may have wonderful people in our lives with whom we are deeply connected, with whom we may have a great affinity in the context of our spiritual lives, beyond the limits of our incarnations, however, they may not be our twins or mates, but something other for which we have not yet found adequate words to accurately describe these very special relationships.

Marriage is a societal convention, mates are temporary phenomena, the lives of our eternal souls in the spirit world may have vastly different social conventions; we may have many mates all of whom are special to us each in their own unique ways but none of whom we may be mated with or married to in any sense that might necessarily be exclusive of anyone else.

Likewise, the special people with whom we share our incredibly intimate bonds may not be related to us in the manner of twins.

While our our spirits may, possibly all share the same womb from which they were born, the same source, we might possibly not be twins in the familiar sense, or in any manner that may be considered special, since in the ultimate sense, in Unity, we must then all be twins to one another including every other spirit in creation, if indeed all of our souls arise from a single source as may seem necessary to be the case.

However, there are considerations which may make the concepts of soul mates and spiritual twins very valid metaphors for our experiences of being deeply, thoroughly connected with another person’s soul.

Perhaps our souls have indeed somehow divided themselves and our souls have thereby created an independent twin or a soul mate.  This is one explanation for twin flames, twin souls, or twin spirits that might make ‘twin flames’ a potent, valid metaphor for experiences of meeting an exceptionally special person, someone with whom we are intimate beyond our abilities to fathom in any conventional terms.

When we examine the beginning of creation, at the time our souls are created, we do not see any of us in the roles of twins or mates.  So if soul mates or twin flames truly exist then perhaps they must come much later.

Another possibility is that all souls are indeed created with twins, as many people sincerely believe, but that we do not see the twins in our observable universes because they may be something like anti-matter in completely separate anti-matter universes.

If twins do emerge later, then that would make them a different order of being from what we might then call our primary souls; those infinite sparks cast forth in the first moment of creation.  Each of our primary souls resembles a hologram, such that every individual spirit contains identical replicas or avatars of all other spirits within themselves.

If we each do indeed become divided to become two separate, specially related souls, we might then really be twin spirits of sorts, but we think we would no longer be the primary soul from which our twins originally emerged, even though each of the twin souls we have become has its origin in a pre-existing more unified state of our soul, each holographically identical with the ‘original’.

We cannot say if the process of a primary soul dividing into twins is inherently limited to one generation, or whether each twin in subsequent generations may be divided as well; however, we believe this to be the case.

We strongly suspect that such processes of division may be carried out indefinitely, each reproduction of a single entity in any generation then creating two holographically identical clones; these reproductions appear like spiritual fractals where the largest scale merges mysteriously with the smallest scale at infinity, in a sort of closed loop of infinitely nested sets of infinities described in perhaps four dimensions, phases, or families.

Another possibility would be that twin flames or soul mates may simply have shared many experiences together over many different incarnations or have always remained close to one another throughout most of their experiences in the spiritual worlds of our souls.

Soul mates are sometimes described as being paired opposites, however opposites may often be a poor term to describe this state of connectedness since opposites appears to exclude examples where many partners who are 'soul mates' may be very much alike.

Philosophies regarding twin flames or soul mates are often predicated upon a belief that god provided for every one of us a perfect mate.

However, if so, then why is finding that perfect mate so difficult?  Has god created our perfect mate only to challenge us to find them?  We doubt that it is like that, we do not believe god is deliberately perverse like that.

On the other hand, perhaps this is a sort of training exercise to get us to learn how to use our spiritual senses and abilities…

We believe that all people begin in an identical state or condition, but that we each may individually evolve into whatever we may choose to become.

We believe popular concepts of twin flames or soul mates may be far too limiting in regard to the potential scope of our relatedness and our love for these special people who appear in our lives; we believe that we may really be meant to love everyone, everywhere, eternally and unconditionally.

We are pretty sure that we are not meant to cling to only one special soul throughout every, and all, eternities.

Of course we may be mistaken; these are only our own guided thoughts on the matter; our positions regarding these matters have already changed over the past four years as we have considered these questions much more carefully over time.

We began to receive ‘real-life’ lessons about twin flames and soul mates immediately after arguing that these may not really exist.

We believe we may know better now, we live two with incarnate soul mates and our twin flame whom we knew as Alina, before she died in January of 1977.

One issue we have with the concepts of soul mates and spiritual twins is that they appear to be partly or entirely predicated upon cognitive process of duality depending on your points of views.

Ultimately, as we see it, duality is an illusion imposed upon us by our limited abilities to think clearly.  We do not think that duality applies to who we are as spirits in the most primal sense of our souls’ origins.  Duality appears to be only a cognitive tool with which to analyze our thoughts and experiences something like turning up the contrast knob on a TV, so that our conscious minds can develop useful terms with which to describe our experiences.

Regardless of the validity of the metaphors we use to describe the sweet experiences we have of meeting someone with whom we may feel we have shared eternity, many of us most definitely connect in a very unique and intimate manner with some very special person, in our lives, possibly with many, many such special people.

Those people with whom we ‘click’ in this extraordinary manner often become pivotal people in transforming our lives for the better so that we help one another to grow and to evolve as more loving, nurturing, compassionate human beings.

If you are lucky enough to believe you have found a soul mate or your twin flame then perhaps you should go for broke.

The person whom you have found may indeed reflect and share a mutual belief in your deep, eternal union and prove to be a loving partner or a deeply cherished friend well worth knowing and loving and keeping close to you in your present incarnation on earth.

 

Blessed be

Namaste

 

[Leila Raven]

For myself I believe we are each one complete divine flame, and not a half of a twin. That we are each a perfect microcosmic representation of the divine. The metaphor of flame, for the spirit is a good one, as it is the same stuff, the same spark which we are all made of, and come from. That we can join together partially in a soul bond, or even completely merging beings with any other divine flame.

We are a universal whole with the infinite flame, and each of us wears a face of that flame. We are each other, we are where our consciousness lays within the inferno.

We have all been mate/sister/brother/father/daughter/mother/son/etc to each other, in some way or time.. That is if you believe in an infinite reality.. in an infinite reality we are infinite selves in infinite combinations of relationships to each other.

My soul mates are those who I currently share conscious soul connection with and with one of my soul mates, Wolfe, my husband and my partner in this life of 18 years, and I have shared memories of previous 'lives' together, and we remembered one another before meeting each other and found each other in part through the memories we held and shared. My other soul mate gray, who has been living with us for a couple of years now, I had no memories of other incarnations together, and am enjoying creating a present, past, and future together... *smile*... for love exists beyond dimensional constructs like time...

I don't have great words/language for these things... and the words I use form sloppy metaphors... but hopefully some of the gist of it pushes through.

[Grigori Rho Gharveyn]

We may indeed each be a complete flame Leila,

We honestly do not know, all we can do is explore and try to consider all possibilites rather than fasten on a single notion we may fancy.

With so many wonderful contributions like your own Leila we feel we have learned a great deal in just a very short while; perhaps the best of these things we have learned is that regardless of the truth value of any beliefs regarding twin flames, or soul mates, we should treat everyone as if they might be a spiritual twin or partner of some sort, we should love them for themselves, with all the same passion we may imagine we might feel for our twins or soul mates, whoever or whatever they may really be.

 

Thank you Leila!

Namaste

 

[0n91zzng8hod0]

Great discussion here!  It is interesting that so many of us have this

longing for our perfect mate.  It is echoed in many fairy tails and folk

stories.  After much reading and thinking about this from many points

of view, it seems that underlying our very being is a knowing that one

day we will be united with our other half.  I am willing to accept that this

"other" half may indeed be ourselves once we transcend duality, both

halves are again united.  But where's the fun and romance in that? 

I would love to have a dance partner, instead of just dancing by myself!

[Grigori Rho Gharveyn]

Hi sister Devi,

We agree with you the questions and comments coming back have been fantastic.

We have an article that mey help you understand your question more clearly, have you checked out the second discussion we added here, Soul Mates and Twin Flames, Problematic Paradigms?

Have a go at that and we will see how your questions shape up then...

 

Enjoy!

 

[0n91zzng8hod0]

Very good!  I will be sure to check it out, thank you!

 

*****Ops! Just checked and the link has been broken.

Repost maybe?

[Grigori Rho Gharveyn]

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