WARNING! There will be people on this site you do NOT like.

[Leila Raven]

In fact, unless you have the compassion, empathy, heart and mind of a saint, as the site grows I can pretty much guarantee it.

There will be those people here. Those people you try so desperately to avoid. Those people that grate on your nerves. Those people that believe in *that* stuff, you know, maybe it's the scary stuff, or maybe it's fluffy bunny stuff. Maybe it's not what they believe, but how they shove it down your throat. Or so it seems. Or maybe it's that they just seem to know it all, and they're SO wrong. You know THOSE people.

Well guess what, we're all one of those people. All of us come off the wrong way to someone sometime. Yeah, we might whine in our heads, but we know better. I'm really a NICE person, a SMART person, a RIGHT person. My intentions are all in the right place. Well guess what, we're all one of those people too.

Ayup.

There will be people here that will use words you don't like, and find offensive.

There will be people here that have beliefs and practices, that you find disturbing, upsetting, or maybe silly, stupid, or trivial. All of us, will have SOME negative assumptions about someone on this site.

Bottom line, we are all who we are.

If we want the freedom to be ourselves, we must extend that freedom to others.

If we want to be respected for our own choices, faiths, ideas, beliefs, we have to extend it to others.

What then to do with those individuals that rub many people the wrong way? Who are more extreme on the edge of a more out there belief, or method of expressing themselves that they disrupt a lot of people a lot of the time. I'm not sure honestly how I will deal with individuals that may really push this sites members buttons.

My first line of approach is trying to work toward an inclusive solution. Bring resolution and positive change without excluding someone. I would like to make removing someone from this site a really last resort.

There are people who thrive on conflict, and conflict is also often a positive part of people who are going through periods of growth and change. Overcoming conflicts. Learning how to resolve conflict. As well as learning how to communicate with others effectively and to co-operate with others, is one of the most meaningful things we can do actually in terms of our self growth and development.

You can use conflict with others on this site as catalysts for positive growth and change, for yourself, and for others. You can choose to try to change what you can change, not that other person, but yourself. You can choose to try to expand your empathy and compassion. You can make an effort to try harder to understand why that other person is who they are, believes what they believe, and feels how they feel, or expresses themselves how they do. All of us have baggage, history, triggers, brainwashing, etc, to overcome. All of us. We are all the walking wounded. If you want a less judgemental more compassionate world. WE have to co-create it.

We can start co-creating it here.

Defuse conflict, keep conflict to places where people who want to embrace it only can, and not impose our conflict onto others who do not want to be a part of it. Recognize trolling behaviours and people who feed on negative energy, or are addicted, literally to the adrenaline rush of the 'fight' or flight response, and just like a good fight (yup, some do, let them fight with others that like to do battle, and if your the pacifist type like me, learn to walk away). I have a tendency as a pacifist to want to repress or smooth over conflict, perhaps more than is ultimately healthy. Really, who gets to decide? and maybe what is healthy for one person isn't the same for another...

I know you're all intelligent enough to really get what I'm saying here.

Conflict will happen, be ready for it, focus not on what I can do as a site owner to fix it for you, or what the other person has to do to stop bothering you, and focus on the only change that really matters, the one you can bring with you off site and everywhere you go. Learn your own personal way of dealing with it, create strategies and plans for self for sharing spiritual space with a diverse group of people.

This place will have a lot of freedom, for many people, that may feel like a lack of 'security', that lack of security, is not coming from the site, that feeling of insecurity, is a feeling, and it comes from within you, and only you, can address it. You can avoid it, or you can understand it, and control it, rather than letting it control you.

Leila

[Lady Shadow]

I like this I really like this Thank you, You know you have inspired me to write a like topic on this for I have had some leave saying sorry we dont like some people on the site, omygoddess ppl grow up .Not everyone will be bubby bubby.,

Your right,  we all have done, said something that has offended another, not everyone will even like us either.

I am glad you wrote this.

[1y1qd1hx6lycq]

Great Message Leila, surely many will be inspired & take up your words of wisdom. I will also embrace "Marc Sylvir" assertion, it resonates & speaks truth to me. Love you guys for helping expand the Light of tuth, to areas to many maybe unaware of. Namaste!

[Kristina]

( did you cut your hair off?)

[20lhgvqmnytnj]

this is very true there will be people every where you go that you dislike or dislike you for some unknown resin but here is the thing people you don't like you don't have to talk to and those that don't like you again you don't have to talk to there need not be any kind of conflict at all if people would simply relies that no matter what we say and or do what it all boils down to is my life is mine no one else i am the one that has to live with my choices no one else has to. and in this they will come to relies that no one else can live their life for them. this one thought will help people stop smile and let those that don't like them talk for their words can not effect any one but them selves. simple and sweet

[10yziazo00smf]

Hi Leila hows things in wonderland:) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OM0O8ySkBmE

[Zephonith Serpent Woman]

Thanks, Leila ~ wishing you all and everything of the best.

Not taking anything personally, liberates one from most emotional and other poisons out there :) 

)O( 

[10yziazo00smf]

Warning warning unidentified alien entering this dimension warning warning, :)ALIEN

[1riardxds6ptl]

Yes, I know what you mean. As a learning empath I've come across some real "gems" in the open chat room. Sadly a few are more interested in stirring things up to boost their perceived "greatness" than in having a meaningful conversation. Amazing how some are incapable of treating others they way they would like to be treated.  

Ah well, live and learn. 

~dK

[TheKundalini.Org]

Blessed are the meek:for they shall inherit the earth.  Mather 5:5

 

[TheKundalini.Org]

Well it is a bit like dying to what you thought was real...but waking to what is infinite...

[Zephonith Serpent Woman]

Indeed, the real meaning of Christ Consciousness eludes the vast majority of the human race ~ and overblown ego seems to be a characteristic amongst certain members in this Temple.

Some people are so conditioned and programmed to believe in the fear-based lies that their spiritual authorities compel them to obey, that they miss out on living the life they love.

If only these people would learn that everyone has the right to follow their heart and choose which path is the right one for themselves; 

if only, they would discover, that all living things have the same energy within; and that it is the radiant Inner Ego that matters, and not the vaunted opinions of others.

It's just such a complete waste of time to always be looking for conflict, to always live with hate and fear in one's heart ~ and then again, everyone must choose for themselves what is best?

"Thou shalt not suffer a Witch to live" ~ hmm...meekness?

[Zephonith Serpent Woman]

Well said again, T ~

We do all learn from our experiences ~ so one of my personal daily affirmations is, "I forgive, as I accept forgiveness"

Understanding that the world is unbalanced, and always will be - there is nothing we can do to change it, as it is wrong to interfere, or force another to our point of view -  gives one the advantage of detachment, as we never take anything personally. 

I personally reason that only if one deliberately steps on that ant with malicious intent, then one must account for the bad Karma that comes from that.

This cannot be equated with exercising the Goddess given right to free self-expression, and entering into meaningful debate without taking it all personally. Just because everyone else is on another Path, it doesn't give a licence to hate . 

Why can't people just give it up and live in Love?