If wanderers who are members of other sects should ask you, “What, friend, are the prerequisites for the development of the wings to self-awakening?” you should answer, “There is the case where a monk has admirable friends, admirable companions, admirable comrades. This is the first prerequisite for the development of the wings to self-awakening.”
(AN 9.1) – Gautama Buddha (Anguttara Nikaya)
Have you ever come across a person who you feel as though you’ve known “forever,” even if you’ve just met them?
Have you ever met a person who you immediately connect with, without knowing why?
Sometimes these people actually know what you’re going to say before you’ve said anything. Luna and I used to call this “freaky mind connections” because we’d often think and say the exact same thing at the exact same moment.
These people who we connect with on a deep heart level are part of what is known as our “Soul Family” or “Soul Group.”
If you want to know what kind of role your Soul Group will play in your life and how to recognize members of it, keep reading.
A Soul Group is comprised of a single person or group of people that your Soul energetically resonates with on a mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual level at any given moment.
These people are members of the same “Spirit Family” as you and they share an intensely strong bond with you that transcends time and space itself. Intuitively, most people tend to describe this connection as sharing the same “frequency” or “vibration” because of the deep harmony felt among such people.
Such a deep and harmonious connection goes beyond sharing the same surface-based personality tastes, hobbies and opinions: it’s an intense magnetic and spiritual bond you will feel that is inexplicable to the mind.
Therefore, your Soul Group is often described as being comprised of Souls that are cut from the same “energetic cloth” as you. But this deep connection isn’t necessarily romantic.
There are many different types of Soul Group connections that you can develop including soul friends, soulmates, kindred spirits, and twin flames — but they’re all fundamentally the same thing with different functions and unique purposes.
Essentially, a Soul connection happens when two people of the same vibrational frequency energetically overlap and share each other’s thoughts, feelings, values, and dreams. Although you might come from different cultures, races, or opposite backgrounds, you will immediately sense an ancient and strong connection in your bones, blood, and very Soul.
To me, the most valuable social experience a person can have is meeting a member of their Soul Group. The defining quality of this type of person is that they make it impossible for you to remain the same person by the time they make their exit.
Relationships, like nature itself, have many seasons. Uniting with a Soul Group member can last a few hours on a plane trip, or end after 60 years of friendship. Sometimes only physical death will end (if only momentarily) such connections.
Every member of your Soul Group will appear in your life to teach you a lesson and to catalyze your spiritual expansion. However, we are not always ready for our Soul Group – but even this is a lesson unto itself. As existential philosopher Jean-Paul Sartre once famously wrote, “Hell is other people.” Therefore, for some people, coming across a member of their Soul Group will feel like “hell,” especially if such a person is weighed down by negative mindsets, dogma, trauma, and the unwillingness to move beyond unconscious behavior.
On the other hand, for some people meeting members of the Soul Group will feel like heaven, as can be seen in the case of Twin Flame and Soulmate encounters. Essentially, how you feel about your Soul Group will be determined by how open you are to changing, growing, and moving past fear.
But the question still remains, why do we have Soul Groups?
Metaphysically speaking, Soul Groups are a natural product of the “flow” of Spirit. If you look at the Ocean, you’ll notice that sometimes clusters of waves arise. The same goes for Soul Groups: we are all Spirit, but we are also broken down into many different Soul Groups. These Soul Groups carry out certain roles, namely, to help each other embody the purpose of their Souls.
In other words, your Soul Family is here to help you learn, grow, and experience what ancient traditions have referred to as “moksha” or enlightenment.
In many spiritual traditions, the obstacles that we face in this life are said to be chosen before birth; that we choose the family we’re born into, the bodies and personalities we develop, and the people we bring into our lives. These people are chosen because we knew they would give us the best chance to learn the many life lessons we needed in order to grow spiritually.
Historically, Soul Groups that gained a lot of force and traction created drastic social changes. Take, for instance, the Creative Renaissance, that was composed of figures such as Leonardo Da Vinci, Michelangelo, Raphael, Machiavelli, Thomas More, Copernicus, Francis Bacon, Galileo, Martin Luther and William Shakespeare.
There was also the Spiritual Renaissance that was composed of figures such as Gautama Buddha, Mahavira, Makkhali Gosala, and Ajita Kesakambali. In China, there was Confucius, Lao Tzu, Mencius, Chuang Tzu, Lieh Tzu, and in Greece there was Socrates, Plato, Aristotle, Heraclitus, and Pythagoras. All of these individuals interacted with each other in different ways that were necessary for a revolution to occur.
Each of these Soul Groups has expanded our collective growth and evolutionary progress. Not only that, but each coming generation will bring in waves of powerful and transformative energies that are built upon the previous progress of earlier Soul Families.
By finding your Soul Group, you grow at not only an individual level but also a collective level. Each plan, each path, is equally as important in the overall evolution of the whole.
It is only through this profound experience of relating to another on Soul level that drastic change can occur on both an inner and outer level.
Where do you find people from your Soul Group?
People have asked me this question so many times, and I once asked the same thing too. But the question isn’t about “where” you will find them – your Soul Group will find you. Instead, the question is “when” you will find them.
Over the years, I’ve found that a time comes in your life when you feel a strong pull towards your Soul Group, as if you’re finally ready enough to meet them. When members of your Soul Group reach this same readiness, this synchronicity will bring you together.
But this inner feeling doesn’t mean that you should sit around and continue your normal routine without changing anything. You can’t win the lottery unless you buy a ticket. Once you feel ready to meet them, you need to start actively pursuing the encounter.
At this point, you need to listen to your intuition or gut feelings rather than your head. Your mind, full of fears and past habits, will guide you toward the path that feels most comfortable and safe. On the other hand, when you listen to your heart, you’ll almost certainly feel uncomfortable as it asks you to step outside of your comfort zone. You’ll find your intuition guiding you towards new places and activities that you’ve never tried before. For example, you might be guided to create an online meetup group, join a cooking class, start tai chi, or even travel.
There are a few ways to tell if you’ve met someone who resonates with you on a Soul level. Here are a few things you might notice:
You’re not afraid to make eye contact with members of your Soul Family and it doesn’t feel awkward. When you make eye contact, there is something familiar that you both share, something comforting, something ancient. It’s almost as though when you make eye contact you’re tapping into a deeper truth that you both silently understand and share.
Members of your Soul Group will not be interested in ego-centered pursuits such as fame, status, money, and glory. Instead, they will be more soulful, more spiritually mature. For example, they might be interested in conscious living, meditation, healthy eating, yoga, helping the environment, and so forth.
For no apparent reason, members of your Soul Group will “pop out” to you like sore thumbs. You’ll be immediately drawn to them and their energy. Even if you lose touch with them, they will emerge in your life over and over again.
When speaking, both of you share similar thoughts and insights, and you’re on the “same page” emotionally. It’s not uncommon for you to both repeat the same thoughts and words, as if you’re mirroring each other’s minds.
You’ve never felt so comfortable and understood by another person in your entire life. Deep down, your connection feels timeless. Even when you first met this person, you felt a strange sense of recognition and familiarity.
Whenever you spend time with a member of your Soul Tribe, you’ll feel energetically uplifted rather than drained.
The moment you’re open to growing beyond your current layers of fear and limiting beliefs is the moment you’ll attract a member of your Soul Group.
Time is completely relative when you speak with someone from your Soul Group. You enjoy talking with them so much that time disappears very quickly.
Your Soul Group reflects your best qualities, but they will also challenge you to see and embrace your greatest flaws. Sometimes challenging you will including creating difficult circumstances for you to learn from, or being brutally honest with you (even if it hurts). Whatever the case, you can count on your Soul Group to help you authentically grow.
Themes such as abandonment, abuse, isolation, and other struggles will be shared between you and your Soul Family. Each life theme will be used as a basis for growth, advice, and mutual support.
There are some people in life who seem to weigh heavily on your Spirit – your Soul Group is the opposite. You will always feel seen, understand, loved, and uplifted by members of your Soul Tribe.
There is no need to hide, fake or pretend around your Soul Group. Your Soul Group honors and celebrates the “authentic” you both on a personality level, and a Soul level.
You might only meet one person from your Soul Group, or if you’re fortunate, you might meet all of them – but this isn’t important. What matters is having the experience of meeting those who share your purpose and mission on Earth to support our collective evolution as a species.
I feel blessed to know so many of my Soul Tribe through this work and website.
Hi, Sunkat, et. al.,
It's been quite a while since I've met someone with whom I've experienced that. Of course, when it happened, I had no idea of what was to follow for the next 40 years...