Yes, I agree with all those possibilities Marcie. I know a few women that some of those scenarios happened.
I have always felt that AVEN tends to ignore two things that I feel are rather important in the explanation of sexuality and romanticism in general. The first is that how we identify with our bodies and our gender informs our sexuality and ability to express ourselves with both. For instance, I am Agender. My body has always felt like a house to me. Just something that 'I', that is to say the part that makes up who I am, live in. Sometimes I decorate it differently according to how I feel or I use it as a tool to interact with the world around me and expressing myself, but otherwise the relationship between my body and my gender informs my sexuality. As a Demisexual it generally tends to mean that its just a tool for expressing love, intimacy, and trust. A way of connecting with others who 'do' express themselves in that way and need or desire to have that affirmed. The second thing I feel AVEN tends to ignore is that there are many other forms of attraction than simply sexual or romantic attractions. For instance, there is aesthetic attraction, emotional attraction, intellectual attraction. All of which tend to be put on the back burner as part of how an Ace/Aro person may experience attraction either through the sexuality, or their sexuality through their attractions.
I agree entirely with you Pan! AVEN does ignore those, and it should be brought to light. Maybe you should post a discussion about this on the AVEN website. Let me know what you think.